Living with
dementia is very hard at times, but it is even harder for family and friends to
understand and in some cases cope with
Often the
illness affects the memory first, and the person may become confused about
where they are, what day it is and who people are.
Someone with
dementia will often repeat actions or questions.
What can someone with
dementia feel?
Imagine if
you were to lose the ability to say the right word or understand what is being
said, e.g., when on holiday in a foreign country where you don’t speak the
language.
You may feel
frustrated, angry and look for help, perhaps someone to interpret for you.
You might
respond by not speaking at all and withdrawing into yourself or avoiding
situations where you have to communicate with people.
In some
cases this is what happens in dementia, the only difference is that it is your
own language that you do not fully understand, and that is upsetting and
stressful
A person with Dementia
may also:-
Feel under
pressure because they can not cope as well as they used to. As their brain is
taking longer to process the information
Fell that
their independence and privacy are being taken away
Think they
are being judged for making a mistake
Be
frightened by too much noise
Try to stick
to routines and get frightened of changes to this routine
May already
have a poor hearing which can be made worse by their dementia, as they do not
understand what is being said to them
12 Hints to help you
communicate with someone who has dementia:-
Be Calm
Face the
person, speak clearly and slowly
Make sure
that you have their attention by gently touching their arm and saying their
name
Use short
simple sentences and say exactly what you mean
Try to get
one idea across at a time
Allow plenty
of time for the person to take in what you say and to reply
Try not to
confuse or embarrass the person by correcting them bluntly
Use questions which ask for a simple answer
Don't ask
questions which test their memory, e.g., who am I? or what did you say
yesterday.
Talk about
familiar people, places and ideas
Use the
surnames of the people you are talking about, instead of “he or she”. It will
remind the person of who you are talking about.
Use facial
expressions and hand gestures to make yourself understood.
Actions speak louder than words
Look at the
person and not the illness, and treat them the way you would expect others to
treat you, and that is with Dignity and Respect
A smile,
touch or gesture can be just as important in getting the message across and
showing that you care.
Sometimes
holding the person’s hand when you talk can be very reassuring
Gradually
the person can begin to lose the ability to do everyday tasks. Eventually they
may not be able to do even tasks like eating, dressing and going to the toilet
Their
personality may change but the person is still the same beneath the illness
People can
live with dementia for many years – with changing needs
Looking
after someone with dementia can be demanding stressful and exhausting
You can give
support by offering practical help, e.g. with shopping or simply by taking the
time for a friendly chat
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I always say that we may have this illness, but we are all so different.
This is my own daily problems, but I would gladly share anyone elses, if they send them in,